STATE POLICE ASK RESIDENTS TO LOOK FOR SIGNS OF NATIONAL TEEN DATING VIOLENCE AWARENESS MONTH

In recognition of February being designated National Teen Dating Violence Awareness Month, your Connecticut State Troopers remind all residents to be alert to this issue.

Dating violence is not new and may be more common than we know: data indicates that one in three U.S. teens have experienced it. Dating violence occurs when one partner in a relationship exerts power and control over the other partner. This usually involves a series of abusive behaviors over a period of time, including physical, sexual, or emotional abuse, as well as abuse or harassment via electronic means.

Although prevalent, teens may be hesitant to tell anyone about what is happening in the relationship. However, all adults – parents, mentors, teachers, counselors – should be aware of the signs in order to take action.

“We ask adults and teens to take note of the behaviors associated with teen dating violence, not just this month, but at all times. This month is a reminder for us to work on ensuring that this vulnerable population identifies healthy – and unhealthy – dating behavior,” said Colonel Daniel Loughman, Commanding Officer of the Connecticut State Police.

Unhealthy relationships can start with poor communication and disrespect. An abusive relationship can go further, with one partner causing harm. It is necessary to set boundaries and have trust and respect in a relationship.

If your partner consistently makes you doubt yourself, doesn't follow through on commitments, or disrespects your privacy, that is not trust – it is a warning sign. Unhealthy or abusive relationships take many forms, and there is not one specific behavior that causes a relationship to be categorized as such. Certain behaviors should be a cause for concern and raise a red flag.

Red flag behaviors of a perpetrator:

·         Uses insults, intimidation or humiliation on the victim

·         Is controlling, insecure, and demonstrates extreme jealousy

·         Constantly monitors location or social media activities of the victim

·         Shows up unannounced or invades the privacy of the victim, sometimes bringing gifts such as flowers

·         Demonstrates unexpected anger or rage 

·         Pressures the partner into unwanted sexual activity

·         Taunts, bullies, threatens and/or causes physical violence

Red flag behaviors of victims:

·         Becomes isolated from friends and family

·         Shows a temper or unusual moodiness

·         Is coerced into using drugs or alcohol

·         Is prevented from going out with or talking to other people

·         Is blamed by perpetrator for problems in the relationship

·         Has personal property vandalized or ruined by the perpetrator

·         Has visible bruises and scratches

The theme for 2026 Teen Dating Violence Awareness Month is “Real Love Respects” and aims to educate residents about dating violence and how it may be prevented.

If you think you are in an abusive relationship, you should consider:

·         Reaching out to a trusted friend, teacher, parent, or mentor

·         Spending more time with individuals with whom you are comfortable

·         Becoming involved with activities you enjoy that will allow you to associate with positive people

·         Seek the guidance of a school counselor or therapist

·         Calling the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 800-799-SAFE (7233).

Parental involvement is a protective factor to safeguard teens against engaging in risky behaviors. Here are a few tips especially for parents:

• Talk honestly and openly with your teenager about what healthy relationships look like and that violence (verbal, physical, or sexual) has no place in a healthy relationship

• Know and recognize the signs of abuse, as well as the facts of dating violence

• Look for changes in your teen's mood, appearance, or activities, which could be an indication that something is wrong or abuse is happening (ex., drop in grades, unexplained bruises, or a change in friends or peer group)